Attachment disorders be the path to Personality disorders later on in life. By Personality Disorder we mean: psychopath, avoidant personality, borderline personality and narcissistic personality. These can all be best understood as based on the foundation of an attachment disorder.
On the one hand, positive attachment Experience in early childhood leads to healthy relationships with peers and adults, healthy curiosity and learning and healthy self-confidence and self-esteem. Positive attachment forms the core of healthy personalities.
On the other hand, Attachment disorders and negative attachment experiences in early childhood, form the deepest foundation of the personality disorders. Weak and broken attachment is at the core of the person with a personality disorder.
This conclusion is based on the fallowing observations:
1. It is the common factor among personality disorders.
2. It always leads to weak emotional intelligence at the empathic level.
3. It will be associated with lack of empathy.
4. It is associated with weak or poor bonding in adult relationships. It will result in an ‘orphan spirit’ which finds it easy to detach from a love relationship and move on.
5. It is associated with an ‘hole in the bucket’ when it comes to receiving love and nurture. The person feels like they are not loved. Their parents or spouse feels like they are an empty bucket.
6. It weakens the ability to have self-control of emotions which is demonstrated most dramatically in the Borderline personality.
7. It results in the inability to develop a mature conscience, for the mature conscience requires empathy at its heart.
8. It results in social behaviour that is emotionally immature for their age. They are much younger emotionally than their age.
9. The person may always feel distant from others as if a glass wall of separation was in place.
10. It results in a feeling of emptiness inside - a sense that something is missing.
Written by George Hartwell M.Sc. a Christian counsellor and registered psychotherapist with a masters in clinical psychology and 40 years experience.
Sessions with George bring people to healing experiences in a loving safe environment. His reliable and innovative methods provide a compassionate focus on people's feelings, a wise understanding of their issues and psychological and faith-based solutions for change.
Phone (416) 939-0544 to set uo an initial session/consult. Phone, Zoom, FaceTime only.
My fee schedule is $150 per hour. Payment is by bank transfer or PayPal transfer.
There is a money-back guarantee. If, in the first session, you decide this is not a good fit for you, we will stop the session and cancel any payment due. I want this to work for you and for me.
On the one hand, positive attachment Experience in early childhood leads to healthy relationships with peers and adults, healthy curiosity and learning and healthy self-confidence and self-esteem. Positive attachment forms the core of healthy personalities.
On the other hand, Attachment disorders and negative attachment experiences in early childhood, form the deepest foundation of the personality disorders. Weak and broken attachment is at the core of the person with a personality disorder.
This conclusion is based on the fallowing observations:
1. It is the common factor among personality disorders.
2. It always leads to weak emotional intelligence at the empathic level.
3. It will be associated with lack of empathy.
4. It is associated with weak or poor bonding in adult relationships. It will result in an ‘orphan spirit’ which finds it easy to detach from a love relationship and move on.
5. It is associated with an ‘hole in the bucket’ when it comes to receiving love and nurture. The person feels like they are not loved. Their parents or spouse feels like they are an empty bucket.
6. It weakens the ability to have self-control of emotions which is demonstrated most dramatically in the Borderline personality.
7. It results in the inability to develop a mature conscience, for the mature conscience requires empathy at its heart.
8. It results in social behaviour that is emotionally immature for their age. They are much younger emotionally than their age.
9. The person may always feel distant from others as if a glass wall of separation was in place.
10. It results in a feeling of emptiness inside - a sense that something is missing.
Written by George Hartwell M.Sc. a Christian counsellor and registered psychotherapist with a masters in clinical psychology and 40 years experience.
Sessions with George bring people to healing experiences in a loving safe environment. His reliable and innovative methods provide a compassionate focus on people's feelings, a wise understanding of their issues and psychological and faith-based solutions for change.
Phone (416) 939-0544 to set uo an initial session/consult. Phone, Zoom, FaceTime only.
My fee schedule is $150 per hour. Payment is by bank transfer or PayPal transfer.
There is a money-back guarantee. If, in the first session, you decide this is not a good fit for you, we will stop the session and cancel any payment due. I want this to work for you and for me.