What are the core conditions of counselling as defined by Carl Rogers?
by George Hartwell Christian counsellor Mississauga, Toronto, Oakville
What are the core conditions of counselling as defined by Carl Rogers? Carl Rogers focused on the characteristics of the therapist. The key is that the therapist must be a good listener.
What is a good listener?
Not everyone has the capacity for empathy. It is deeply present in the emotionally mature. The Emotionally mature are those who felt loved in early childhood and grew up with solid parent-child attachment.
You do not learn empathy. You do not have more empathy because you went to graduate school. In fact, the opposite is true. Academic experience tends to reduce empathy.
How do you tell if a counsellor is empathic. By their eyes. Do they look at you in a cold way. That is often associated with a person with little empathy. Are their eyes warmer and can smile with a twinkle. There is the counsellor with empathy.
Carl Rogers believed the counsellor should be a human being - a real, genuine person who would be active and engaged in the therapeutic relationship because he or she cared.
With the ideal Rogerian therapist, the client can get their thoughts and feelings out. There is no judgement or interference in this process by the counsellor.