Listening is important in parenting - it supports a child's ability to communicate.
Listening is important in marriage - listening to and acknowledging your partner's feelings supports your partner and the bonding between you.
When your counsellor listens to you. It helps you to communicate when someone listens without an agenda. It supports your identity or identity building process. It helps you clarifying your thinking. It helps you solve problems.
The client who feels listened to feels loved. Depressed people very quickly begin to feel less depressed and more sane and confident in themselves.
A gentle, non-judgemental approach is important for someone needing to consolidate identity or needing support in a major crisis. It provides an emotional safe zone to express one thoughts and find oneself.
In couple work the counsellor uses listening skills while encouraging the couple to begin to practice listening and acknowledging one another. Once a couple has learned to acknowledge the feelings of the other there can be couple resolution of relationship trauma. This can lead to deeper bonding helping the couple to become a solid team that can tackle anything together.
It was like I lived in a fog when I was young. That is how weak my sense of self was. A strong inner force worked below the surface. It tried to connect with God for the love and life I so much needed. See: